I recently had a conversation with one of my UWI batch mates. She was lamenting about the insurmountable challenges at her workplace. All I could hear was one negative thought after another. It then dawned on me…is this how I have sounded to my friends in the past? God bless my supportive friends who have listened to me bemoan the predicaments I face. Throughout the conversation I attempted to put a positive spin on everything she told me. I showed her possible alternatives and at one point silence filled the space. She was deep in thought. The question she then asked me forced me to really think. “How do you remain positive in a negative space,” she asked. I can’t say that there is a simple answer to that question. For some reason, negativity is easier to facilitate in our minds. However, I have grown to a point where I am almost completely certain about what I need to do to maintain positivity. I would love to share my thoughts with you.
Tackle Only the Things You CAN Change
There are certain things you have to learn to accept. For instance, you can’t change the behavior of the people you work with. However, you can change how you respond to them. You can also change the psychological effect you allow them to have on you. Harping on things that you can’t control is a recipe for unhappiness. Focus on doing what you need to do to be the best you can be.
Surround Yourself with Positive People
Let’s be real. There are some people in your life who you can really do without. They never have anything good to say, are selfish, and only focus on the negatives of life. If you keep these people in your space, you will unconsciously start to adopt their negative speech habits and way of thinking. Let them go! Surround yourself with positive people who are focused on progressing in healthy ways. Despite how positive you are, there will be days when you feel down and hopeless. These people will encourage and uplift you.
Remove Yourself from the Negative Environment
You are a product of your environment. It takes grit to shine in a negative space. Some people are built to grow amidst a negative environment. Others aren’t. If you fall into the latter category, get out! Leave! Walk away! In my recent Be Inspired feature, Karelle Samuda spoke about taking risks. It is only through taking risks that you will truly grow. Take the risk to step away from the negative environment into something new. The new space may be exactly what you needed to find your purpose and happiness.
Practice Positive Self-Talk
This is one of the most common suggestions when topics of happiness and self-love are discussed. However, it is one of the most difficult things to do. Extremely difficult. It’s hard to shut out all of the negative thoughts that scream in your mind, but it isn’t impossible. When you wake up each morning, before you even begin getting ready for work, look in the mirror and state a positive affirmation. For instance, you can say “I am beautiful” or “I am one of the best ______ in the industry.” The idea is that the more you say it, the more you’ll believe it till it ultimately becomes a part of your psyche.
Take Time to Do What You Love
Consuming yourself with work and the needs of others is easy to do. However, it is almost impossible to maintain a positive outlook when your light is dim. Take some time to do what you enjoy. Be happy. Enjoy life. You deserve it! Don’t view it as a waste of time. View it as a way to invest in your mental health. The happier you are, the better able you’ll be to perform at your full potential.
For many people, remaining positive is a challenge. Down days are a part of life regardless of how positive you are. However, the key to living a positive life is to lessen those down days and boost happy days. Make these 5 tips an active part of your life and you will see drastic improvement.
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