I am done! This is the final straw. I’m better without you. These are the words uttered by people in a relationship that’s hanging off the edge of a cliff. The love is gone. Hate has rushed in to take its place. The reasons you fell in love, forgotten. Hopes of rekindling the flame, gone. Too many relationships are reaching this breaking point; a breaking point that has resulted in a 53% divorce rate in the United States.
The warning signs are often very clear. Blinded by love, however, many couples continue to trudge along into the sinkhole that leads to their relationship’s death. Too many people try to force a relationship that isn’t meant to be. I’m not talking to these people today. Instead, I’m talking to the people who started with something beautiful, but are heading down a path that leads to an avoidable end. You feel on edge because you know that something isn’t right. Either that or everything seems to be too perfect. Open your eyes and critically examine your relationship. If you see any of the following relationship killers, nip them in the bud and keep your relationship alive.
Physical intimacy is a necessary component of a relationship. Sex is a cathartic experience and, when done correctly, a beautiful display of love. However, sex can quickly overshadow what a relationship is meant to be. A relationship is a partnership; two people with similar values connecting harmoniously. If your relationship is becoming predominantly about sex, that’s a clear red flag.
How do you avoid it? Make a concerted effort to spend time doing activities. Enjoy other aspects of your partner that can only be displayed outside the bedroom. Get to know your partner as a whole individual, not just the person who’s good in bed. Date night should be a weekly thing, not just something you do on special occasions. It also doesn’t have to be reserved to dinner and a movie. This leads me to my next point.
No Spark to Ignite the Flame
Complacency slowly creeps into most relationships. You become so comfortable with each other that it’s okay to let the romance gradually fade. If you can’t remember the last time you’ve spent some quality time with your significant other outside the home, something is wrong. If you can’t remember the last time you did something special for each other, something is wrong.
How do you avoid it? Encourage creativity. Romance can be found in the simplest of gestures. You could do something as simple as write a sticky note with an encouraging thought and putting it in your husband’s briefcase. If you want to try some meaningful activities outside the home, sign both you and your partner up for classes in an activity you both enjoy (dancing or learning to play an instrument or sport are classic examples). The key is to consistently do things that will put a smile on your partner’s face and allow you to spend meaningful time together.You have to keep the romance alive.
This is one of the biggest relationship killers. People don’t understand how to effectively communicate. Communication is as much about genuinely listening as it is about talking. You may not have had any major disagreements. However, if you’re unable to respectfully share your thoughts and opinions with your partner, something is wrong. Being comfortable enough with each other to talk freely is important.
How do you avoid it? Don’t allow issues to escalate. Talk respectfully to each other. Listen to what your partner is saying. Take genuine interest in your partner’s dreams and aspirations. Do less texting and more voice or face-to-face conversing. This leads to fewer misunderstandings.
Neither of you was born as Zeus’ offspring. Pride causes a major wedge between people. Belittling and refusing to deal with issues are two common signs of ego taking over the relationship.
How do you avoid it? Stop considering yourself to be better than your partner. You’re equals regardless of who earns more money or has a higher level of education. Treat each other with respect. Learn how to compromise. It’s not about you. When you’re in a relationship you work as a team.
Yakov Smirnoff once said, “If love is the treasure, laughter is the key.” The ability to make each other laugh keeps the strings connecting your hearts firm. A relationship that lacks fun and humor is heading towards a dark road.
How do you avoid it? Have lighthearted moments. You may not be a natural comedian, but if you know your partner well, you’ll know how to put a smile on his or her face. Laughter brings healing and spreads love.
These 5 relationship killers can be avoided if you pay attention to the warning signs. Have you noticed any of them in your relationship? Take the necessary action to correct it before it’s too late.
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