It has often been said that the best person to get into a relationship with is someone who is the complete opposite of who you are. Of course you’d have to share some core values, but the difference in personalities helps to add spice to the relationship. At least that’s what we’ve been told. Here, what works for magnets (where opposite poles attract) is being applied to the one ting that unites two people on deeply intimate levels- a relationship. People are starkly different from magnets. We’re dynamic and colourful- a juxtaposition of right and wrong. There is, therefore, no rule or book or school of thought that can truly dictate what makes an individual right for you. It’s something you discover on your own. The following are some tips that can help you on the road to discovery. Discovering Mr. Right is something only you can do, but these tips can help guide you in the process.
Understand Who You Are
There is no way that you’re going to find the RIGHT person if you are completely clueless about who you are. When you don’t understand who you are, yon begin to look for answers in the people you surround yourself with. Some of these people may take advantage of that and only leave you more damaged and confused. Understanding who you are is a process that takes time. There are some people in their twenties who are still completely lost. If you are one of these people (maybe you’re not in your twenties, but you’re still lost) then you can use the QDR strategy to begin the journey of self-discovery.
Ask yourself important questions. What do you believe? Why do you believe what you believe? What are your dreams? Where do you want to go? Who do you want to be? You will discover the answers to these questions overtime, but the point is to seriously think about them. They are the gateway to the next step on the journey.
The only way that you are going to be able to test whether or not your answers are correct is through experience. Go out more. Interact with people more. Step outside of your comfort zone.
When Thomas Edison discovered that he could solve the problem of a lack of bright, steady light in the night time, he didn’t just sit on his idea. Instead, he reacted and created one of the most useful inventions- the light bulb. As you discover more about who you are, react by gaining more experiences in what you enjoy and believe. Stand true to your values. Doing these things will help you attract the kind of person you’d want to spend a lifetime with.
Be Wary of Who You Spend Your Time With
Your life partner isn’t necessarily going to be a random stranger you meet at some dingy bar. Instead, he more than likely will be that friend you’ve had for months or years. This truth means that you need to be careful about who you allow into your inner circles. Don’t keep people who don’t respect who you are. Even if your personalities and values differ, that respect will prevent them from leading you astray.
Don’t Be Afraid to Give Someone Who Is Similar to You a Chance
It is true that we are often attracted to people with personalities opposite to our own. So, a quiet and reserved woman may be attracted to a more outgoing and verbose man. Being with that type of person helps you to discover things about yourself that you may never have discovered with someone with a personality similar to yours. The flip side to this, however, is that people who are opposites often don’t understand each other. In fact, they began to irritate each other after awhile. For instance, the verbose man may eventually become annoyed by the very quiet woman.
This doesn’t mean that you can’t find Mr. Right in someone opposite to you, however. It simply means that you shouldn’t rule out someone with a personality similar to yours either. He may just be the one for you.
There are no hard fast rules when it comes to relationships. What is true, however, is that you need to understand who you are and what you stand for in order to attract the man who is right for you. He may already be within your reach…you just need to open your eyes and get rid of your checklist. At the end of the day it’s about who you’re happy with. It’s about the person who brings out the best in you while you bring out the best in him. It’s about the man who can be your best friend and who can accept you for who you are, flaws and all. It’s also about you being able to be all of these things for him as well.