Who am I? Seems like a simple question right? But if you really pause to think about it…what would your response be? Personally, I would give a generic answer such as, “Hi. I’m Christine and I’m a caring person.” However, truly knowing oneself extends far beyond the superficial and forces us to embrace every facet of who we are (both good and bad; both strengths and weaknesses).
I could very easily point out everything I dislike about myself and I have yet to truly embrace the good qualities that I have. As a result, I tend to look for someone to show me what good there really is in me and this, naturally, leads to problems in the intimate relationships I have had. Before you can share yourself with someone else you have to be able to appreciate and accept every facet of your being….you have to be able to know and love who you are. Loving yourself means that you understand your strengths and weaknesses and you know how to minimise your weaknesses and maximise your strengths.
Comparison is one of the things that leads to self-hatred and low self esteem. Trust me, I’ve been there and done that. However, we have to realise that there will ALWAYS be someone who is better than us or who has more talents than we do. The moment we are able to stop looking at what others have and begin to strengthen what we already possess is when we have truly discovered the meaning of our lives. Look at it this way, people go to the gym to develop their physique. The more they work out is the stronger and more toned they become. If they don’t work out they go back to square one and are therefore not able to become the “sexy beasts” they know they can become. Similarly, if we don’t do things to develop the strengths we have, they will become underdeveloped and we won’t be able to maximise our true potential.
I am beginning my journey of self discovery and I hope that this will help me to have an excellent relationship with my life long partner in the future. Will you begin to embrace who you are and truly LOVE yourself?